There is a belief that buying things in advance for an unborn baby is strictly prohibited, since this can cause difficult labor or various health problems for the baby. Is it really? And where did this belief even come from? Let's figure this out.
From a medical point of view
Let's look at one of the reasons why you shouldn't prepare your child's dowry in advance. Previously, the process of preparing for the birth of the first child was a kind of ritual. Mothers spent so much time and effort on sewing and knitting new things for the unborn baby, thereby causing negative processes in their bodies. Lack of rest, fresh air and overwork negatively affected the health of the expectant mother, which caused a deterioration in her general condition.
From a mystical point of view
Despite the fact that many do not believe in the other world, no one can refute its existence. The emerging beliefs and superstitions are supported by centuries of experience. Therefore, perhaps it is worth listening to the opinions of people who believe in them. Previously, it was believed that new things were a kind of “empty house.” Until the moment the baby is born, evil spirits may settle in him and, in the process of fighting for him, will try to force him out of the life of the newborn. Many people believe in this superstition, so they refuse to prepare a dowry for the baby prematurely.
What to do for superstitious people
It is possible that among mothers there will also be superstitious natures who, no matter what, will not want to purchase any accessories for the child before he is born. Well, everyone has the right to do their own thing. However, there is a very simple way out of the situation. You can make requests for the purchase of specific items in virtual stores on the Runet and arrange in advance for the goods to be delivered on the day of discharge from the maternity hospital. This solution to the problem can suit even the most superstitious woman.
You can do it differently: entrust the purchase of children's goods to your relatives or close people. However, you should help them in this important event: prepare a list of necessary accessories for the baby, and do not be lazy to indicate the color, model and brand - this greatly simplifies the search.
But you should also take into account that it is better to make the most important purchases, for example, a stroller or crib, on your own or together with your spouse: naturally, in this case, a home delivery service by the seller should be provided.
From a psychological point of view
You shouldn’t dwell on negative things, even if the opinion that you shouldn’t prepare things for your baby in advance is quite common. Remember, focusing on the fears and prejudices of strangers will be a big mistake. After all, preparing for the birth of a baby, including buying new things, is a very interesting and enjoyable process. Self-hypnosis is a strong thing, so if you set yourself up for negativity, then attract it to yourself and your unborn baby. Try to program only good things, and be sure that everything will be fine.
Useful tips
Some tips will help you easily brush aside all the negativity and get into a positive mood:
- Make your own decision. Of course, it is difficult for a pregnant woman to act contrary to established traditions, however, if you decide to prepare things for the baby in advance, then do it with joy, throwing away gloomy thoughts. After all, this is your life, your personal choice, and you need to learn to overcome prejudices. However, if this is a problem for you, it is better to start preparing the dowry later.
- You should not attach great importance to other people's opinions. Even if others put pressure on you, guided by different beliefs, try to create a positive space around you and tune in to a positive wave. After all, in fact, your health and the health of your unborn baby depends on your psycho-emotional mood.
- Calm down. A pregnant woman simply needs calm, peace and balance. Listen to your intuition, it will tell you better than anyone what to do.
“Good” signs: what needs to be done before the birth of a child?
A pre-purchased baby crib should never be left empty.
In contrast to the “forbidden” superstition that you cannot buy things before the birth of a child, there are a number of “permissive” superstitions. It is recommended that you follow them so that the birth goes smoothly and quickly:
- A pre-purchased crib must be covered with clean and new bed linen, and after discharge it must be re-made - the baby item will be waiting for its “guest”, but at the same time it will become sterile;
- It is recommended to put a toy, for example, a doll, in a pre-prepared stroller or crib - it will also “wait” for its owner. It is believed that such baby supplies should not be left empty;
- On the child’s birthday, it is recommended to open the closet door in advance, where the prepared trousseau for the baby will lie. Then good forces will help you give birth to a healthy and long-awaited baby quickly and painlessly;
- If a pregnant woman hears swearing at herself or another person, then she needs to cross her index and middle fingers as quickly as possible - in this case, evil words will pass by;
- It is advisable to feed a pregnant woman as often as possible something tasty at her request - this promises prosperity in the house, fulfillment of all desires and good profit. Good returns generously.
The advantages of preparing children's things in advance
Now it’s worth talking about the obvious advantages:
- Freedom of choice. The expectant mother has a lot of time to choose what she wants for her baby and think through all the details down to the smallest detail. After all, after giving birth, she definitely won’t have time for this. During a rush, as a rule, purchases are thoughtless and often many of them are completely unnecessary. Therefore, it is necessary to look for a dowry without haste, namely before childbirth - in the second or third trimester.
- 100% comfort guaranteed. After giving birth, it is inconvenient for a tired and not yet strong mother with a baby in her arms to buy things. It’s not worth entrusting a man with such a task, even if he has a list in hand. Because in most cases, daddies do not understand children's things and accessories. If we talk about buying a crib or stroller, then you can’t do without a man. In addition, in this matter, dad will understand mom better and even surpass her in this.
- Positive emotions. Choosing beautiful things for your baby is a pleasure. Miniature rompers, baby vests, and caps simply amaze with their beauty and wide variety of choices.
Psychological aspect
Often, the expectant mother does not begin to worry about this bad omen and purchases things in advance until the so-called “advisers” are found.
They begin to put pressure on the pregnant woman from all sides, intimidating her with the fact that this threatens the health of the baby.
Not always such acquaintances can even explain why you can’t collect a dowry ahead of time.
Because of this, the expectant mother begins to worry about the baby’s health and worry about the upcoming birth.
For a woman, being in this wonderful position, it is important to calm down and not be nervous. After all, the condition of the child is directly related to the health of the pregnant woman
If possible, it is better to limit communication with those who tell terrible examples from life, associating them with a bad omen. If this cannot be done, then simply do not take everything seriously.
You need to decide for yourself what to do and not take to heart all the words with which the expectant mother is intimidated about purchasing the necessary things in advance.
We decided to follow the sign - that’s also good!
This choice also has advantages. Your loved ones will be very pleased if you entrust them with such an important matter as buying a dowry for your baby. Besides, you don’t have to waste your time and energy on this.
Alternatively, you can purchase things in advance, but store them, for example, with future grandparents. You can also order things online, and dad will only have to negotiate with the courier for their delivery.
Optimal period for purchases
So, we found out whether it is worth buying things for a newborn in advance. But when is the best time to do this? It is in the second trimester of pregnancy. As a rule, at this time parents already know who will be born to them - a boy or a girl. Moreover, at this stage it will not be a bad idea to worry about purchasing large-sized accessories: a changing table, a baby car seat, a crib, etc. However, this does not mean that you should definitely purchase all this in the first days of your shopping trip. First, study the assortment offered at different retail outlets, compare prices, evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of products for children.
Necessary things
Even if you decide not to buy anything in advance, there are a few essentials that you should still stock up on in advance.
Crib with bed linen
After arriving from the maternity hospital, mommy will not have time to choose and buy a crib. But the baby needs to be put in it right away. In addition, this is an important thing, the purchase of which is difficult to entrust to someone else. After all, you need to purchase a crib that is durable, reliable and can be transformed for easy changing.
Stroller
It also needs to be purchased in advance. After all, you will be wearing it to take your baby home. Give the choice to a branded model that will transform. It is important that the stroller is as comfortable and safe as possible for the newborn.
Blanket or envelope, diapers with diapers
Remember, for the first time you should have a minimum set on hand. While still in the maternity hospital, you will need to change the baby's clothes.
