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The child’s psyche in such an early period is quite vulnerable. After all, he knows how to perceive the emotions of others, to be offended, ashamed, disappointed, this is exactly what he realizes at this age.
Many people think that if a child has grown up and finds things to do independently, then they should not pay special attention to his upbringing. Parents spend a lot of time on their own affairs, forgetting about him, that he always wants to be paid attention to, wants to know that he is loved.
It is very important at this age to adhere to psychological methods: playing games together, reading books, doing classes, doing housework, because behavior is based on imitation of an adult, spending time together is the most important.
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The child should feel responsible in the task assigned to him, and it is also necessary to praise him if he succeeded in doing something. If he tried, but couldn’t do it, you still need to praise him and say “next time it will definitely work out.”
The tasks of raising and educating a child
The main tasks of raising and educating boys and girls at 4-5 and 6 years old depend on parents and harmony in the family, first of all, these are:
- teach them to communicate in society;
- give as much information and knowledge as possible;
- thank you for the help and gifts provided;
- respect elders and do not interrupt them during conversation.
Psychology shows that at this age a love of performing in front of others, a desire to recite poetry, dance, and sing are revealed, so the task of parents is to help and develop the talents of their children.
Behavior and education
Correct upbringing and behavior during the period of 4-5 years develops cognitive activity well. It is necessary to carry out the tasks recommended by psychology, try to adhere to certain methods, find time to communicate with the child as often as possible, give him useful information, teach him everything new.
Now is the period when they are interested in everything, many questions arise, so a father for a boy or girl can become a real “teacher of life . Men know a lot and can clearly answer a child’s question.
Moral qualities begin to form : sensitivity, understanding, kindness, and a sense of friendship are manifested. It is necessary to support and teach the boy and girl to have a positive attitude towards others.
Parents should know the psychology of behavior of boys and girls at this age and, using their own example, teach them to master the rules of a culture of behavior with peers and elders, to carry out assigned tasks, teach them how to behave correctly in public places, how to share toys, where to give in and where to stand on his own.
A five-year-old child is characterized by mood swings and unpredictability of behavior; children become physically and psychologically resilient and can fulfill the parent’s assigned tasks.
Now it is easy to agree with them, parents should become best friends with them. Good upbringing is based on love, which should be felt in all situations, even when you have done something bad; you don’t need to be afraid of your parents.
Always be on your child's side , trust him, help him solve problems, be a support for him in life.
Know how to always find an alternative, show understanding without violating the individuality of the little person.
Important
Understand and accept the main thing - the crisis of 5 years in children is a given that cannot be avoided. And only in your hands is the opportunity to make life as easy as possible for your baby and yourself, based on the experience of child psychology specialists and parents who have already encountered this problem.
What's good about a five-year-old's crisis?
Against the background of unbalanced behavior, it is during the crisis of five years that the child shows all his inclinations and strengths, which can help determine in which direction the baby should develop.
If your child is busy with modeling, dancing, playing musical instruments, sports, drawing, singing, then the crisis is experienced without much difficulty. Children who have something to do know what they are striving for, are passionate about interesting things and tasks, and are, in fact, engaged in building the foundation of their future success.
Of course, no one guarantees you that your child will become a great musician or athlete, but all the knowledge, skills and abilities acquired at the age of five will certainly become part of the child’s personality and will help him to realize himself. Try not to miss the moment and help your child find himself in a useful and enjoyable activity.
A five-year-old baby, whose energy has been directed in the right direction, overcomes his age crisis with ease and benefit. Developed abilities at a tender age will help him in his youth to be head and shoulders above his peers: rationally make plans for life, set goals for himself and achieve them.
Tips on how to properly raise a 4-year-old child
Upbringing must be correct, because this is an important age period for them. Personality traits are fixed and character is formed. A child copies the behavior of his own parents in his life, because adults are role models for him.
During this period, the main thing is to pay a lot of attention and develop cognitive processes. Psychology suggests giving your child entertaining tasks, telling him a lot, he finds it interesting and remembers it well.
Develop some rules in the family and strictly monitor their implementation, for example, the child must be able to clean up after himself, put away toys, throw garbage in a bin, etc. But it is advisable not to forget to praise and reward with a kiss for a job done.
Features of education
The peculiarities of raising a child of 4 and 5 years old are that they must adhere to established rules in the family, which should be strictly adhered to.
If the mother forbade it, then the father should also be at the same time as the mother. There should be no exception: today you can, but tomorrow you can’t.
When raising children, parents must be observant and attentive in order to respond in a timely manner to the causes of disobedience.
Relationships between parents and children are built continuously, every day. A feature of upbringing is considered to be a correctly defined type of temperament, so taking it into account we can confidently say that communication and upbringing will be much easier and correct.
This rule will help to form a harmonious personality. You should always try to build trusting relationships, develop their personality, not limit their imagination, be able to listen, laugh more often with children, teach them to communicate, be able to react correctly to hysterics, allow them to make mistakes and learn from them.
Moral education of a child
The child begins to follow moral standards of his own free will; he can correctly make the right moral choice in practice.
Psychology shows that during this period he develops moral values in life and trusting relationships with people, empathy is shown, a feeling of guilt is manifested, and he becomes gullible.
For all moral norms, a social way of behavior is fixed, for example: “You can’t lie to adults,” “you can’t take someone else’s,” etc. They know how to differentiate what can be done and what cannot be done.
Moral development of children aged 4-5 years: signs:
they form their first moral judgments and assessments; begin to understand the meaning of moral norms; the effectiveness of moral ideas increases; conscious morality arises, that is, his behavior begins to adhere to the moral norm. Proper upbringing advice from a psychologist
Proper parenting advice to parents from psychology
1. There is no need to ask questions that provoke bad behavior; 2. Make positive requests; 3. There is no need to explain to the child what he already knows; 4. No need to read hourly notations; 5. There is no need to manipulate the child; 6. be able to find a compromise, teach how to overcome difficulties in life;
Speech development
Such a leap in development, which children of this age have, would be hardly possible without the gradual mastery of the art of speech.
And he not only actively learns new words, but also comes up with them himself.
At this age, the overwhelming number of children use almost all parts of speech, and accordingly their vocabulary increases significantly.
Thanks to this, he perceives this world more meaningfully, purposefully analyzing.
Difficulties in parenting at 4, 5 and 6 years old
Difficulties in upbringing arise when parents do not know the characteristics of children's behavior and constantly demand certain actions and achievements from the child, do not take into account his personal opinion, do not allow him to make decisions on his own, do not listen, constantly criticize, scold and humiliate.
In this case, the girl or boy completely closes down, stops trusting their parents, does everything in defiance and shows their character, does poorly at school, and then has problems in adult life.
To avoid difficulties in upbringing, you need to start using psychological methods; first of all, you should learn to ask politely, and not order and demand, to respond correctly to hysterics, and to develop your personality.
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Communication
How do kids communicate? Different than with adults. The first thing that catches your eye is increased emotionality. They can rarely speak normally. They scream, laugh, squeal, rush around, and at the same time choke with delight. Adults often do not understand such reactions.
That is why the majority of children, especially of this age period, behave more relaxed and freer with their peers. In communication between peers, one can observe more feelings, expressive and facial manifestations than when addressing adults.
Show your child how to initiate communication
When communicating with adults, children try to adhere to at least relative norms and decency. In communicating with each other, for example, they often use completely unexpected sounds, fables, and words.
Sometimes children are embarrassed to communicate both with peers and with adults. To prevent this phenomenon from developing into a psychological problem, adults need to neutralize this phenomenon and look for a way out of this situation.
For example, help a child and introduce him to the social circle of other children with the words: “Hi guys! Our names are Katya and Masha, let's play together.” In the future, the child will learn to get acquainted and communicate on his own.
Changes after the crisis
After a sharp leap in mental development, the child becomes more balanced, listens to the advice of his parents and enjoys spending time with his family.
Strong-willed qualities of character and self-control are strengthened. The kid organizes the daily routine, sets priorities (do homework first, then rest; go to bed on time).
Character traits, tastes and preferences are clearly visible. The child judges events almost without regard to parents or friends.
What should parents do? Psychologist's advice
Parents should clearly define the boundaries of what is permitted. The child must understand the established laws. This is a question not only of good behavior, but also of safety: children feel protected when there is a system of rules in life proposed by their parents.
Do not change your decisions to suit your child’s wishes. Otherwise, he will understand that you can be manipulated: “Why listen to your elders if they will agree to my demands anyway?” Forbidden today is always prohibited. The golden rule of pedagogy is “Teach by example.” It is strange to punish children for swear words if you yourself use them in speech.
Remember: the child grows, learns new things in order to realize his potential. Disobedience is a sign of independent thinking. There are no ideal children who unquestioningly fulfill requirements. Hyperobedient children grow up into uninitiative, amorphous people.
What should you not do?
- Unfortunately, parents sometimes lose patience and raise their voices at their children. This is useless: talk calmly, softly, but persistently. Give logical arguments.
- Physical violence is unacceptable. Eliminate even spanking and other “harmless” touching.
- Don't take your anger out on your child. Are you feeling tired? Find another way to get rid of negativity.
- Don't punish with indifference. If you see that your child has said something rude, but cannot cope with the problem without you, come and help him. Responsibility always lies with the adult.
- Don't leave in trouble. The child must be sure that his parents are always ready to help - this is the basis of psychological comfort.
- Don't scold for no reason. Express dissatisfaction correctly, be sure to emphasize why this or that action upset you.
- Don't focus on children's lies. Offer to imagine together, write a story or draw a picture with fictional characters.
- Avoid suffocating guardianship. Give your child a chance to develop freely, without pressure and external control. Show that you already trust him in many matters.
- Don’t brush it off with the words “You’re doing your nonsense again.” Find time to listen, sympathize, give advice.
- Don't worry too much. Every family goes through crises when their children grow up. When the unpleasant period is over, you will appreciate the fruits of patience and proper upbringing.
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